The Emotions Breakups Bring When You Break Up With Someone

Before you break up with your partner, there are a few things you must remember that breakups bring extreme emotions which you might not be prepared to handle. These emotions that accompany breakups range from being extremely sad, to being ok and from being very depressed one instant and then confident the next minute. Because these emotions are so intense, one must be absolutely sure before breaking up. Even things like breaking up and getting back together have repercussions. One could start feeling emotions of not feeling secure in the relationship.

During a break up with someone, you must recognize that there will be emotions and it will be high one day and low the next. This is how life is and breakups are no different. It is how to control these emotions that really counts. Sure breakups are extremely hard and difficult but like so many have gotten over it, so will you and your partner. When you suggest a break up with someone, the first emotion that will be felt by him or her is that of shock. Only of course if the break up was unexpected will this emotion show itself. Shock is never a good feeling in any situation so be sure when you break up with someone you at least give them warning signs as to what you intend to do. Let them down gently by not taking them by surprise. Shock is not only unpleasant but also can create medical problems. This includes stress levels rising, heart pumping rapidly and tension in the whole body. Unless you prepared to live with the fact that your ex will be ill as a result of the break up, then don’t surprise him or her with the news. It might be best to give signs that you are unhappy before the final break up.

The next emotion felt by the other person that is likely to follow when you break up with them, is the feeling of low self worth. That person will immediately feel as if the breakups their fault. Their confidence will start to deteriorate and they will start to feel depressed. Although you cannot control this feeling as it is really up to the other person, you can assure your ex that it is not because they are a bad person, but because the relationship was just not working. Be sure not to bruise that person’s ego to make them feel they were not good enough and this is why you would like to break up with them.

Emotions of anger will also follow. When you break up with someone, they might feel anger and hatred towards you. Your job is to convince the other person that the relationship would have never survived and that the breakup is a result of you not wanting to waste time and not to be hurtful. There will be sadness and loads of tears but, it will surpass. The emotions you feel as the person doing the breaking up such as confusion and sadness might be minimum, but will still exist.

By: Amelie Chance